Positive Attention and Your Child
By Urvashi Arya
Your youngster and Positive attention:
What exactly is the Positive focus?
Positive attention is when you express your happiness in your child and warmth in your relationship by doing the following:
Expressing physical affection – for example, hugging your child – using words to applaud and encourage your child showing interest in your child's hobbies, activities, and achievements
What is the significance of Positive attention?
Children require experiences and interactions from infancy that demonstrate that they are valuable, capable human beings who provide joy to others. Positive attention, comments, and responses from significant adults help children develop a sense of worth.
Positive, caring messages from you and other significant individuals in your child's life build up your child's self-image over time. A Positive self-image is critical for your child's interpersonal relationships and confidence as they learn about the world.
The responding interactions with you and other providers give your child a sense of security and safety. Your child will feel the utmost safe and comfortable if you smile when they gaze at you or reassure them when they are afraid or uncertain. This instills confidence in your child as they explore their surroundings.
How do provide good attention to people of various ages?
There are numerous ways to provide Positive attention to your youngster. Changing a diaper, overseeing a bath, or walking to school are all activities that allow you to interact with your child significantly. For example, you can give Positive attention to your toddler by snuggling and tickling them after a bath. You can also sit with your arm over your youngster and watch TV together.
You can do easy things every day to communicate that your child is unique and essential, regardless of age.
Smile while you look at your child.
Show a keen interest in all that your child is doing and, if possible, get them to tell you about it.
When your child speaks to you, pay attention and listen carefully.
Make some particular family traditions that you can all participate in.
Make time to spend with your child, doing activities you both enjoy.
When your child tries a new skill or makes an attempt with something, praise them - for example, "That's a wonderful drawing!" What are the sources to learn to do that kind of shading?'
There are many ways to provide children of various ages with good attention.
Positive attention for newborns and babies:
Babies respond to your tone of voice, gestures, facial expressions, and body language even before they can understand and utilize words.
Here are some suggestions for giving your infant Positive attention:
When your infant smiles at you, smile back.
When your child cries, comfort them.
Respond to your baby's sounds by making a sound of your own.
Discuss what's going on in your immediate environment.
Observe your baby's interests and encourage them to investigate - for example, demonstrate how to shake a colorful rattle that has captured their attention.
Positive attention suggestions for toddlers:
Children understand more of what you say as they become older and how you say it. Here are some recommendations for attracting good attention at this age:
Immerse yourself at the moment with your child. Crouching yourself down to look at a caterpillar together could be enough.
Allow time following your conversation with your child for your child to respond.
Comment on anything your child is doing while playing with them without criticizing them when persuading them to do something else - for example, 'Wow, that's a pretty big tower!' I wonder how many more blocks it will take before it collapses.'
Tell your child how much you enjoy what they're doing. 'I adore' is an example.
Positive focus strategies for preschoolers:
There are numerous ways to provide Positive attention to your preschooler as they learn about the world. For instance:
Make time for your child's favorite activities, such as jigsaw puzzles, Lego, painting, etc.
When you welcome your child in the morning, remember to smile, make eye contact, and even give them a special cuddle.
Show your youngster that you're delighted to see them after daycare or preschool. Give hugs and high fives to your youngster or tell them you missed them.
Positive attention techniques for school-aged children and pre-teens
When children go to school, their horizons grow. However, your child's development is still largely influenced by your warmth and Positive attention.
Consider the following suggestions:
When your youngster wants to chat about school, stop what you're doing and listen. This may not always be as soon as your child arrives home; it could be when they are bathing or shortly before bed.
Inquire about one extraordinary event that occurred during the day with your child.
When your youngster begins to speak, ask follow-up questions. This continues the conversation.
Observe and encourage your child's Positive relationships with others, such as 'I think Hunter enjoyed it when you asked her about her vacation.' It allowed her to express herself on something significant to her'.
If you need to express constructive criticism, include Positive comments, such as, 'Normally, you're such a fantastic sharer.' I understand it's difficult right now, but consider how your friends feel when you don't give them a chance.'
How Positive attention accumulates over time?
It's critical to give your youngster more Positive attention over time rather than criticism or all that negative attention. If you give your child Positive attention most of the time, they will feel comfortable and cherished. This will also outweigh the moments when you are frustrated or preoccupied, or unable to offer your child the attention you desire.